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The malignant narcissist can abuse financially, sexually, emotionally, or physically. This can cause them to engage in abuse they would...

In my work I have found that personalities with mild ADHD type traits tend to become successful in sales. Their persuasive nature make ...

Unfortunately I do see an overlap in a small amount of the ADHD and sometimes Autistic neurodivergent population and NPD. There are 4 ...

Still as an adult, I feel difficult when others shame me. How have you coped with shaming from others? Sadly it seems you have been used...

Someone can be a codependent and an enabler at the same time. A Codependent is an enabler and enablers enable by caretaking to the point...

Absolutely you can successfully raise an older child having been a scapegoat yourself. You now have the gift of wisdom you can now share...

This is an essential question to ask oneself if we are to free our inner spirit thus allowing ourselves to have the courage and freedom...

Interesting question because neurodifferent (ADHD) people prefer to be independent (unlike what they were afforded in school- which was ...

How can codependency be stopped? I myself am a recovering codependent. I would describe codependency as being so low in self esteem and...

In my work experience I have experienced a connection between dyslexia, dyscalculia (problem with number/maths) dysgraphia (a ...

Hi we have three ways of behaving, passively, aggressively, or assertively - when in communication with others. A passive style takes the...

I feel my background would contribute more to narcissistic traits but, nope. I never got the love or empathy from my family growing up....

their life with their same parent(s)? If so, how would this happen? Narcissistic Parents see their child/children as an extension of ...

In a healthy family system the children's needs are central. In a narcissistic family system the parent's needs are the priority. The...

hate they treat everyone else with? I am not sure its hate in many cases it a sense of entitlement. However the answer is YES If they...

Are you co-dependendent/addicted to him/her? Do not have children together, is this stopping you from leaving? This is still no excuse....

Is isolating her when all the others sit in pairs the correct approach? Its Absolutely not the correct approach. It will make her feel ...

From what I see, many of them seem completely oblivious to it Many are not aware that they are neurodifferent. However though highly...

living together? I was only discussing this with a client yesterday. Very often those living with a narcissist are the ones who end up...

A codependent and a narcissist both control, however with different outcomes in mind. The narcissist controls to gain power and ...

if possible, by only one parent who is not narcissist? Yes from my experience in my work is causes less confusion for the child and...

You can try and manage yourself not the narcissist. Say how you feel but do not go head to head cognitively. That is their strength. You...

or mirror and adapt their personality disorder until I discovered I made a child with one. How do you coparent with someone who will...

people because that's the only way she can feel better? I am wondering why knowing that this person is toxic to be with, do you spend...

Yes some narcissistic kids do gaslight their parents to the point of emotional destabilisation thus causing doubt and confusion in their...

with a narcissistic family members or child? Firstly expect them to respond with surprise anger and disgust because they no longer have...

(I’m 24 weeks along, living in a different province since Dec. 1st, trying to distance myself but he insists on being with me once baby...

I find in my work that yes narcissistic mothers and fathers can have a favourite child. This type of parent is a self feeder so they ...

Yes, in my work I have found that both male and female narcissists can compete with their own children. Their need to be the centre of ...

I feel that the behaviours have similarities and I am worried that I may have narcissistic traits. In my work I find there are...

an abuser, a pathological liar, and a malignant narcissist/psychopath? There is no reasoning with such a person. Cut off all contact ...

Boundaries, Boundaries, Boundaries. Stay very firm about your expectations of their behaviour moving forward. I.e. Do you want him to ...

I have worked with this. It is complex. I wonder is there some role model in their lives they are copying. Or could they also can be in ...

Yes he can cause triangulation to happen either between the daughter and her siblings or between the daughter and his wife/her mum for...

Knowledge is the key. I wish I had understood and could put a name on the dynamics of narcissism growing up as a kid. I was lost and...

In my view there is no difference if the person with ADHD is educated in a way that suits their brain which helps them to thrive from a...

Yes indifference hurts and angers the narcissist because it shows them that they no longer have power or control over you. However in my...

in the shadow of a narcissist parent's know-it-all-ISM - where they were "always right" and I was "always wrong"? It is hard to not feel...

What is the purpose of the visit, is it to work on the relationship? Because relationships are co-constructed this would also require...

In a non toxic and non-narcissistic family the needs are centered on the children whereas in in a toxic/dysfunctional family the needs...

My mom wants to get the walls fixed, but we need an excuse other than "Our dad punched the walls.” What can be some good excuse? So you...

Detachment and in some instances no contact is essential if you are not being heard, given choice, being respected or if you are being ...

First we need to be aware that sadly they do exist and they present with different levels of malignancy and destructiveness. This...

I would encourage you to leave before you become totally destabalised. They do not change. They will be surrounded by their flying...

I was married to a woman that could define narcissistic to the textbook definition. In my work with survivors of narcissistic abuse I...

I would encourage you to leave before you become totally destabalised. They do not change. They will be surrounded by their flying...

I do not have a grandiose voice. Is this normal? Yes I understand this and it's normal for many who present for therapy. It is something...

when younger to the point of needing to be home schooled? Interesting question because I have wondered about this myself and have...

Yes if you have not worked therapeutically on your vulnerability that attracted you to the first narcissistic group or them to you.....

My experience through my work is that many are typically wealthy rather than poor. Their lack of conscience and their impulsiveness can ...